Ways That You Sabotage Yourself in Relationships
There are a lot of us out there in the world who desperately want love but are terrified by the thoughts of opening our hearts as well. Putting ourselves in a position to be vulnerable and open with someone leaves us raw and exposed. It can be especially difficult if we have experienced heartache or abuse in our relationships. Sometimes even when we want love so badly, we fantasize about it daily, we quietly self-destruct when we finally start to get a taste of it. You see, loving relationships are great when we fantasize about them, but when they become a reality, we become paralyzed with anxiety. This becomes an issue because you have never experienced pure, healthy love; or you haven’t been taught how to love properly. Here are ways in which you may be sabotaging yourself in relationships.
You invest a lot of emotions very quickly without getting to know a person’s character. If you are one who falls in love or loses yourself in someone else quickly, then this applies to you. This is a characteristic of emotional unavailability where we become so consumed and invested in the other person that we don’t take the time to get to know our partner, what their values are, and what their relationship history is. By investing so many emotions quickly, your partner hasn’t earned the right to be in a relationship with you and red flags are overlooked.
